Even doing nothing, not-communicating, is in itself, making a statement. It is simply not possible to not-communicate (so long as the other person knows that you have the option to, or not to communicate) How often do we not-communicate, not-respond to texts or emails. Or answer direct questions with an indirect response? All of these … Read more
‘The definition of insanity is continuing to do the same thing over and over, and then expecting different results,’ Einstein famously stated. This follows on from Presupposition #3. Consider the feedback, then if you want a different result, do something different. And yet so often we will go about our lives, doing the same thing … Read more
The effectiveness of communication is best judged by the response that it gets. Consider what happens after you have communicated. This is far more important that the words that you may say. Often we may feel like we’ve nailed it with some communication or other. I remember, for example, being quite certain that I had … Read more
Consider this: everything that is within your mind (thoughts, ideas, concepts, pictures, stories, films, perfume, feelings, emotions, etc) arrived there only because at some point in your life, you have already taken in these pieces of information using your senses… There are many senses*, however for NLP we tend to focus on the main 5 … Read more
In short – all results are only “feedback”. To judge a result of a behaviour or action to be a success or a failure depends on the desired outcome and context. However, to accept that there is no failure only feedback opens up the possibilities of choice, the opportunities to change context, and the choice … Read more
Remember presupposition #1 – The Map is Not the Territory? Well this leads on from that one. People respond according to their map of the world – of course they do – how else could they respond? People work within the territories that they understand, and the territory they understand is defined by “their map” … Read more
NLP Presuppositions are powerful things! If you take these on to be true and act accordingly you will make lasting and positive changes to your relationships and ability to achieve your goals. If, as an NLP practitioner and/or NLP coach you accept these to be true, they will each be useful tools to help you … Read more
NLP is an excellent tool for goalsetting, and to take us right back to the beginning, let’s look at the three legs of NLP – Outcome Orientation, Sensory Acuity and Flexibility The three legs of NLP are essential for effective goalsetting: Outcome Orientation – What do I want? This means working with a specific objective … Read more
We all have an ongoing dialogue in our heads (you didn’t think it was just you did you?). Sometimes we’re kind to ourselves, other times not so kind. However did you know that the frequency of the not-so-kind conversations are a) much more often than the encouraging conversations, and b) often really harsh? We wouldn’t … Read more
