It is only by taking an action that we can truly understand all the elements at play in a situation. There is a reason why any training course is more effective when delegates “do”. Active learning is proven time and time again to be highly effective, not just in the retention of information, but in … Read more
If you want to change the world – change yourself first. In fact YOU are the only person you can legitimately change in the way you want to. So when things are going awry, consider instead of trying to change the “reality”, how to change your experience of reality. The mindfulness techniques of not believing … Read more
Bandler and Grinder created NLP through modelling excellence. We have all modelled someone at every stage of our lives, it is an excellent way to learn. “Modelling” is nothing to do with fashion or catwalks, instead it is a term used to describe a very specific behaviour. When we model someone, we watch and absorb … Read more
This one can be so easily summed up: “not having choice = dead”. The fact is – there is ALWAYS choice. And yet so often we say “we have no choice”. Viktor Frankl’s book: “Man’s Search for Meaning”, is one of the most profound works on the idea of choice, and his quotes here are … Read more
The mind/body were never separate. The concept of separateness was a product of the Western World, and most specifically the Church. In the times of early science people asked the church for permission to carry out post-mortems, to investigate our physiology. The Church categorically said that the body could be investicated, but the head/brain could … Read more
Even given behaviour that we may judge inappropriate at the time, the person is not “just” the behaviour. For example: A “naughty” child is not just a naughty child. An “angry” teenager, is not just an angry teenager. By removing the judgements (nominalisations) we can see behind the behaviour and accept the person as a … Read more
Each and every behaviour is motivated by a desire to achieve something useful to that person. Whether or not we judge it to be appropriate is immaterial. For that individual, they are doing the best that they can do at the time they are doing it. There is nothing wrong with any particular behaviour (for … Read more
People work perfectly. Everyone already has everything they need to get whatever they want. Sometimes this is a tough one to get our heads around. After all – does that homeless person really have everything they need? Does that person in the foodbank have all they need? Well no. However, they do have all the … Read more
Even doing nothing, not-communicating, is in itself, making a statement. It is simply not possible to not-communicate (so long as the other person knows that you have the option to, or not to communicate) How often do we not-communicate, not-respond to texts or emails. Or answer direct questions with an indirect response? All of these … Read more
‘The definition of insanity is continuing to do the same thing over and over, and then expecting different results,’ Einstein famously stated. This follows on from Presupposition #3. Consider the feedback, then if you want a different result, do something different. And yet so often we will go about our lives, doing the same thing … Read more
