NLP Presupposition #7: Individuals have all the resources they need to achieve their desired outcomes (people work perfectly)

However, they do have all the resources they need to get whatever they want. For example, they are able to communicate and ask for what they need.  They can function well enough to do what they need to do.  But the jewel in this particular NLP Presupposition isn’t in “knowing” that it’s true – it’s in accepting that it could be.  And by doing that, we are removing ourselves from the need to be the helper, the fixer, and instead we are respecting each indivvidual for the strength and resources that they have.

Accepting this, means that as an NLP Practitioner, you are helping people to access those resources, and respecting that each individual has strength and resourcess of their own.

A long time ago I was friends with someone who was determined that they were unable to achieve a particular goal.  They said that they wanted to set up their own business but that they felt just couldn’t do it.  This was  a long time before I had learned NLP, so rather than using this presupposition, I worked with her to try to “fix” the situation.  You know what? We never managed to fix it.

I met her again a little while ago and reminded her of how hard we had worked to achieve her goal. (She still hadn’t achieved her goal of her own business).  This time, when  she asked  if I had any ideas of how it could come true for her, I said “No…  But you have all the resources yourself to figure this out.  You don’t need me to fix this for you – you can do it yourself”.   A few years on and she was running her own  agency.  She didn’t need help – she needed people to believe in her.

Tips to use this NLPP presupposition

Are you a “fixer”?  Stop trying to fix things for people.  Acknowledge that they have those resources and strengths already. Not only is this a much more respectful and easier way of being for the person you’re workinng with – it’s also so much better to work this way.